There is a distinction to be made between giving up and letting go. We give up on things when we stop caring about them—when they become more trouble than they are worth. By contrast, letting go does not mean one does not care. Rather, it means one accepts that the desired outcome is not going to happen and that continuing to pursue it could be harmful to oneself, one’s relationships, or future endeavors.
Success and failure are two sides of the same coin. They go together. The most successful people have known failure just like everyone else. The real difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that successful people are willing to try, fail, try again, fail again, learn from all of it, and persevere until they succeed.
Imagine tossing a pebble into a calm pond. Then imagine tossing a boulder into the same pond. How does the water react? As David Allen notes, “totally appropriate to the force and mass of the input; then it returns to calm. It doesn’t overreact or underreact.”